In fact, most people feel this way about self-improvement as a whole.
And certainly, a lot of insecure people do engage in this type of behavior. However, they are not actually practicing self-improvement or having a positive attitude...they are simply escaping from reality.
A genuinely positive attitude is the disposition to be optimistic towards things that are presently unknown and it can apply to many different contexts.
For example, you can have a positive attitude towards people whom you don't know well. This is similar to the "innocent until proven guilty" concept. Since you may not know enough about someone to make a concrete judgment about him, you hold him in a positive light by default.
You can have a positive attitude towards your goals, feeling like you "have what it takes" to achieve them. This attitude goes hand-in-hand with self-esteem. A person of high self-esteem will feel capable to deal with the challenges of reality, in order to realize their goals.
But why is a positive attitude important? What purpose does it serve?
Well, as with many things in life, the attitude that you approach something with will affect your perception and ultimately your actions. For example, if you view people as friendly, honest and worthy of respect then you will approach new people with openness and acceptance, which in turn will often make them behave in the ways you expected of them. Contrastingly, if you view people as mean, dishonest and threats to your well-being then you will approach new people with suspicion and distance, which in turn will often make them behave in the ways you expected of them.
When approaching new goals, a pessimistic attitude will significantly lessen your motivation and prevent you from taking the risks and extra effort that is necessary to push through the inevitable obstacles and challenges. An optimistic attitude will help you accept the possibility of your goals and make you willing to endure the trials along the way, because you know that it's worth it.
More than that, our brains become addicted to whatever emotional states that they are most used to experiencing. A person who feels happy and optimistic towards life most of the time will feel the desire to twist events, people and circumstances in a positive light, in order to maintain his emotional state. Similarly, a person who feels negative and pessimistic towards life most of the time will feel the desire to twist events, people and circumstances in a negative light, in order to maintain his emotional state.
To twist things in a positive light does not mean being delusional. Again, many people are delusional and do keep things positive to the point of escaping reality. Our goal here is to take situations that are UNKNOWN in some respects and view those elements in a positive light for the time being, until we figure out the actual situation.
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